I was raised to be polite...

Please do not mistake this for some sign that I like you, or that we are close friends, or that because I was kind to your face that you should bother me again in the future. There are certain things one does not do in "polite company," meaning, in public places you shouldn't cause a scene, be overly emotional or engage in any displays that would embarrass yourself or others. These are the rules which make public, social interactions pleasant for most human beings on planet earth. So, hypothetically speaking, you could hate me and want to kill me but probably shouldn't threaten my life in public. Despite risking a monumental beatdown from whomever I am with, you are making yourself look ridiculous, insecure and out of control. In return, I behave in a civil manner in public no matter what may have transpired between us. When you forcibly interject yourself into my presence or conversation, I will do my best to ignore your rudeness, lack of tact, sense of timing, blatant disrespect for me, etc. If you presist in forcing me into an unpleasant social interaction with you, I will do my best to include you in a pleasant but non-personal conversation. Should you not be able to get the hint that you have ruined my day, I will attempt to excuse myself (or myself and my conversation partner) politely and quickly from your odious, interloping presence.

So, given the case that I was raised to be polite and have some sense of social propriety and civility and you were clearly not raised in a similar way, how will you know if this pertains to you? Well, common sense, of course. Ask yourself;

Have I ever threatened this person with bodily/social harm?

Have I ever told lies to this person or slandered their reputation?

Have I embrioled this individual in what is commonly known as "mind games"?

Have I ever embarrassed this person publically or drammatically?

Have I engaged other parties to do any of the above social fouls on my behalf?

Has this person deleted/blocked me from their Facebook or other accounts?

If the answer is "yes," then the person you are trying to engage most likely wants nothing to do with you. Congratulations, you are a bona vide a$$hole and are not fit to associate with polite society. Go back the gutter from whence you came and stay away from me. Thank you.


If you HAVE done these things, but have since sincerely apologized, congratulations to you! You are one small step closer to being a polite and proper being. However, this does not give you the right to resume any or your former behaviors unless given express permission to do so by your "victim". If the recipient of your rudeness has NOT accepted your apology, or accepted it and mentioned "but..." and uttered any of the following phrases, then the person you are trying to engage probably still wants nothing to do with you. When in doubt, ladies and gentlemen, always remember that "no" means "no", and it stays a "no" until you hear otherwise from the horse's mouth.


These ALSO mean "no":

1. I do not want to see you again.

2. Please go away.

3. Please stop stalking me.

4. Do not call me again. / I have changed my number.

5. (almost any 4-letter word) _ + you!

6. If you were called names which DID accurately describe you and/or your actions.

7. If you persist in doing (insert what you actually did here), I will get a restraining order.

8. I have feelings of hatred/violence/strong dislike for you.


Also remember to use body language cues to know whether or not to aproach a situation. Actions such as avoidance of physical and/or eye contact, rolling of the eyes, gagging motions, and people turning their backs to you are all indications that you should leave those people alone. They do not like you. The best way to climb back into good social graces is to simply not be rude. If you want to go the extra mile, you might try going out of your way a little to be nice in an arm's length kind of way. In short, start acting like a decent, non-a-hole, human being and you will be accorded the proper respect you have now earned.